How we see polygamy in Islam is holding us back as a community. Muslims will have problems, as long as they view polygamy as an anomaly. They need to see it for what it is. It is a good way of life that Allah allows for us. The same as we view a monogamous marriage as the norm, we should see a polygamous one the same way.
In the first place, there are so many fallacies about the way of life. For instance, when it comes to a man taking on a 2nd, 3rd or 4th wife, some say that he should only marry a certain kind of woman. Specifically, he should marry a divorced or widowed or barren woman or one who is past a certain age as in “old”. Many Muslims have portrayed those women as being the undesirable, not those whom one would marry as a first wife.
The truth is that it is okay for men to marry those women as first wives. We could find the most compelling evidence in looking at the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). He married Khadijah, and she was fifteen years older than him. Furthermore, it wasn’t her first marriage. It goes to show that a Muslim man may marry any Muslim woman who is single and marry her in any order.